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Fashion for Daygamers-OutZone

Whatever your angle it is going to be better if you look good. Speedy guide to aesthetic game, outzone. Hits, fails and foibles.

When I introduce ‘Outzone’ I am discussing locations that are not central global metropolitan areas where more fashion latitude is fine. Also separate are the little cliques of punks, bodybuilders, Goths and so forth where different rules apply although these extremes can be influential. Really we are thinking on the calibration level and it’s very relative.  Must say I’m finding it a lot easier to spot disastrous clothing fails than stuff that looks good. It’s horses for courses I guess if you are doing an Instagram posing shoot or a wine tasting at a 5 star + chateaux that would be a different matter. I am talking here about dudes looking great going about doing their day and ready for whatever might come their way.

Regarding Mr Denzel Washington (top left) this guy pulls it off nicely but it is hard to separate his look from his clothing; he would probably cut it in all sorts of outfits that may be awkward on another guy. For our gent (top middle) in the cowboy hat, he may look cool in Florence or even London but in a smaller Northern town he would be viewed as a suitable candidate for the Village People. If that is his intention it’s fine he would be a real hit in Manchester’s gay village sector.

Because we are talking about aesthetic game it is not just fashion choice; it’s grooming, general health, posture, muscles and reduced fat. There is a cool blog here that goes into some further detail. The reason I give this bodybuilding guy Jay Cutler (top right) a fail is that for the standard distribution of female attraction, too much muscle is off-putting and freaky but it would be impressive to the small percentage who are into that sort of thing. Also there is the stereotypical assumption that because he is a bodybuilder he is also vain. Probably true but not necessarily. For example this gent might just be extremely driven to succeed at something and he chose this.

Getting onto to the real nightmares (second row down), these guys look fine but come across as complete dicks. It is just marketing to metrosexual guys with zero emotional intelligence. Chicks pick up on the slightest whiff of vanity and move on. At least based on the pics these fellows present a Narcissistic demeanor, which is nauseating to almost anyone. The fashion industry markets to the metrosexual guy and makes mugs of them. If you want to find out more about Narcissism there is a really nice blog about that but to cut to it, these guys fall in love with their own refection then get stuck there; it is truly horrible. I see it everyday at the gym. Maybe I am prejudiced but I don’t mind seeing it in women so much.

On a practical level it’s winter now and for a guy doing street hustle he needs to be warm and he needs somewhere safe for his money and phone. Check out the dude with the coat (bottom right). A spitting image of daygame rockstar himself James Tusk. A zip pocket might come in handy but it also needs to be easy to use so he can whip out his, phone, when he needs to.

Getting on to the remaining green ticks these seem Ok depending on what is congruent to your vibe.  The inked guy in the snazzy waistcoat looks suave and the well groomed hipster (Featured) showing off a good level of muscle development looks just right. Personally I wouldn’t wear the bottoms of my jeans like that but I know that is on trend at the moment and it’s not about me.

Getting onto the final and invisible topic, smells. It is the cherry on top. The cassolette as highlighted in my latest book (The Little Black Book of European Stereotypes, pp.12) doesn’t go down so well with women if the sweaty aspect is too dominant. Clean, distinctive and expensive is good you can check it out on you tube but don’t use too much. These are my favourites below. You can shop around and get some decent deals or use testers if you are broke.

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London Daygame-lightening primer

A tough but extremely effective technique of cold approach for engaging strangers you want to date. It proceeds through a number of steps as illustrated below.

London Daygame Model

In 2019 the mainstream became more aware of daygame and did much to vilify it. If you compare that to the drunken exploits of people in bars and clubs it is pretty mild. If you are absolutely sensible and politically correct all the time you never get anywhere.

A ballsy dude earning his strips

The ‘London Daygame Model’ (LDM) which is pretty synonymous with just ‘Daygame’ arose somewhere on the streets of London, Shoreditch High Street probably. Top exponents today are Tom Torero and James Tusk but Kesia Noble, Hayley Quinn and James Marshall do some nice variations on this theme. I am inclined to think that there are aspects to it that are hardwired in our psyches. I came to it from a different direction, I was doing sales jobs and physically placing myself in front of people (although I never chased after them and never have which is a part of the LDG model) in the way they describe. My intentions were not romantic initially, that came later. Don’t be deceived by the haters this stuff works if you have the strength of will and confidence to build your skills. Therein lies the rub. I don’t do it myself now because I don’t need to, but the patterns exist in me and being a geek I find it interesting; hence my recent publication.

A snap shot of the model goes like this :

I just put this shot in to confuse you. It’s a pic of my former wing before she became a nun.

Breaking this down. The Approach, James Marshall does a really nice masterclass on this below. (If you are that cool, tall, high status and good looking the guy doesn’t have to do anything, he could just do Aesthetic Game; not doing much at all but looking good. Things would be easy for him unless he actively did things to screw it up, anyway. You are on a moderately busy street. Too busy becomes impractical and too quiet not enough potential. Grow yourself a pair. You go up to them, put yourself in front of them whilst trying not to freak them out; that’s the early vibing part you may have already got some I-O-I’s, where you try not to come across as psycho killer while saying something like ‘Hi, sorry, I know this a bit random but I just had to say something….’ This is the point where you insert your level of directness it doesn’t have to be verbal. Todd Valentine one of the top guys in America where approaches are rather different to English methods, would make some points about ‘validation’ at this stage but we don’t need to worry about that at the moment. Stats suggest a little kino (touching) here increases both your success rate and your creep factor – sorry feminists. BBC journalists love this stuff.

Now comes the fun part – Stacking. The masters put in a voodoo potion of all kinds of deceptively innocuous stuff here – NLP, weasel words, Negs, Pos’s. If your demeanor is on the darker side of things check out the daddy Russ Jeffries he is a brilliant practitioner and orator but I found his books rather incomplete and naff. It is about developing something, not freezing, not bailing and not making a total twat of yourself. You can riff on his/her style, imagined job or imagined nationality. It doesn’t have to be correct or even logical. That’s where the idea for the National Stereotypes thing came in, I had a lot of fun researching it and this is my plug.

If you have done your job right and the moon is right you’ll hit the hook point. At least according to the idealized model above, however it could happen earlier, later, or never. This is where your protagonist starts investing in the interaction. Stand back and let him/her engage. If you are slick you flip it and now he/she is trying, neat ay. Now more vibing. Your protagonist invests even more and you reach a kind of tipping point when leaving the interaction seems wasteful. Now for the ‘Conviction‘ phase and first of potentially many closes of various kinds. This is where the interaction is grounded ‘look we’ve both got to be somewhere, pity I was enjoying your chat shall we continue it sometime… give me your number.’ If you both feel like it you can try and have an instant date (I-Date).. ‘shall we grab a quick drink.’ Then if you really are in a hurry you build some more rapport and escalate.

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Pua Glossary-core version

Stroppy, idle and insolent maids delivering your PUA Glossary

Getting a quick handle on some of the main terms can go a long way. I have intentionally just added the core of terms here, with some nice nuances included along the way for the blog weary. Some of these words exist in the outside world but may have a particular meaning in this context. There are a lot of Nerds out there in a special subculture who have developed their own language and have expanded this list vastly. They spend many hours driving their couches on forums arguing, trolling, re-phasing…  endlessly. This site is not about that. If you want to get a quick handle on things, proceed Sir or Madam.

AFC – Average Frustrated Chump.

AMOG – Alpha Male Of the Group.

AMOGed – Getting sand kicked in your face. Nice Infield example.

Bitch Tests – A.k.a. Shit Tests. This goes back to the ark and are very special. Your potential dates may brutally test your metal with insults, abuse, hostility but it is better than indifference. Examples – you are too old/young/short/bald etc etc You should be happy that they think enough of you to put you through the ringer, but like baby turtles trying to make it to sea many are finished at this point never to return. If they don’t see you as a prospect they probably wouldn’t bother.

Cold Approach – Going up to a stranger.

Daygame – As distinct from Nightgame. The practice of making approaches during the day with direct or indirect romantic intentions.

Direct Approach – Going up to someone and admitting a romantic interest.

Flaking – When a person doesn’t show up or cancels a date

Friend Zone – Being considered as a friend when you want to be a lover.

Indirect – Going up to someone and not admitting a romantic interest even though you do have one.

Infield – When someone is involved in a daygame related interaction in public.

I-O-I – Indicator of Interest. Eg : A smile, a look or even a blush.

Kino – Touching. On misnomer which is abbreviated from Kinaesthetic. The actual word means something different out of this context.

London Daygame Model – A significant method of cold approach which presumably came from London although it’s roots are very hazy. Top exponents of this method are Tom Torero and James Tusk.

Negging – Welcome to the dark side of game. Devalidating or giving mixed signals with the intention of hooking attention and encouraging the subject/victim to try to regain validation. The previous king of this dark art was Julien Blanc  before he went down the rabbit hole of cult leader. It could be a back handed compliment. Many practitioners re-frame this practice as teasing today which is a milder and less offensive form.

Nightgame – As distinct from Daygame. The practice of making approaches during the night with direct or indirect romantic intentions.

Number Close – Getting someone’s phone number, synonymous with sales terminology.

PUA – Pick Up Artist. A much despised role today.

Rapport – The sense of an understanding, an empathy close and harmonious between one or more people. For mages of mischief it can be like a glamour which he/she castes towards an absolute stranger. It like hitting the ground running and can be totally false unless you subscribe to the view the bonds between any human is great and every human is intimately bonded in some profound and transcendent way.

Stacking – Stacking is a method used after an introduction, at some point by comedians, salesmen and daygamers to move the conversation forward, to build some interest, fun or controversy. They don’t have to be correct to work and they help you stay in the game especially if you run out of things to say.

Vibing – A feeling or sense of a person. In this context someone might try to come across as fun, sexual, dangerous et cetera even before anything is said. See London Daygame Model – a lightening primer.

If you see her, please return her to me; I mislaid her in New York

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Post Script : Just added this as an afterthought. I am trying to stay in the real world with this stuff but there is a massive subculture here. There are many words, phases and acronyms that are a long way from the mainstream. Thought I would drop a few links here for interest. What tickles me is that the cliques and subcultures are not talking to each other so much so the language is branching, like the Towers of Babel; well just a little.

Acronyms only. Handy if you are reading blogs about this stuff.

A very extensive glossary but no quality control. Some great entries, very encyclopedic but some make me cringe.

Kurdish Women’s Movement: “patriarchy is not natural” — StereoType Magazine

“Have any of you ever studied the origins of patriarchy at school?” Dilar Dirik asks, researcher in Sociology at Cambridge University and activist of the Kurdish Women’s Movement. The rhetorical question slips into silence, so Dilar tries to summarize only 6.000 years of humanity on Earth, when, during Neolithic, the first “modern” societies were formed in Mesopotamia, India, China… matriarchal organizations, where women carried out internal, social, economic and political functions, and men external, subsistence and defense ones. At that time women had an enormous prestige, probably stemmed from the fact that they were considered the only procreative members of the group, prestige that it was taken away from them precisely when the men discovered their paternity…

Kurdish Women’s Movement: “patriarchy is not natural” — StereoType Magazine

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